So, I see and hear a lot of people say that you shouldn’t get involved in kink or in poly until you’ve worked out all your issues.
Who in this world has worked out all their issues?!? I’ve known folks who have said that to me, who can’t even find the beginning of their issues, never mind the beginning of a rope!
That being said, I don’t think it’s fair to ask someone to have no issues, and really, it’s not logical and it certainly is a put-down: its as though the person saying that is better off than me, better than me, because they are directing the comment at me after I talk about my issues. So much for trust.
Who in this world has worked out all their issues? Am I right? I’d rather admit my issues and work on them. Don’t take them out on others.